Many adults know all too well that their first bully was a sibling(s). The connection between their adulthood and the abuse that happened in childhood goes undetected for many. There has been considerable progress in the field of family violence. One type of abuse remains largely undetected. It is the physical, emotional, and sexual abuse of one sibling by another.
Parents have excused sibling abuse with various stances: children are naturally competitive, let them fight it out, etc. Sibling abuse, however, is the basic reason why bullying is increasing. Bullying is not created on a school yard or in a classroom. The real culprit as to why bullying is increasing is that it has been tolerated…almost from the beginning of time. Sibling abuse is increasing with vast numbers because children are unsupervised and can get away with it. Parents are so stressed with the survival needs of the family; they can’t detect the covert world of sibling abuse. Many siblings in aggressive home settings, recreate the abuse or send out signals to other child that they are victims. Many of the aggressive acts between siblings can’t be characterized as rivalry. They are abuse in the highest form. Because the abuse came from a trusted family member, the outcome could be PTSD, addictions, negative relationships, and participation in domestic violence.
Many adult lives of sibling abuse are scarred both from the abuse and also their parent’s lack of response. Americans value their freedom and that is why this type of abuse has gone on way too long. As a nation, we want to raise our children with no outside interference.
We need to challenge this stance and help children who are getting abused right now. Public attention needs to on the innocent children who do not know freedom and live in tyranny with abusive sibling(s).
Adult survivors are the ones who can hold our country up to another standard. We can help children know freedom. We can help them walk toward a better adulthood. An Ethiopian Proverb: When spiders unite, they can hold up a lion.
Many adult sibling abuse lives can be utilized to lend attention toward this important issue. The closed doors of ignorance can open. Children are not property. They are human beings and need to be treated with respect. It is time for the doors of freedom to open for many children who are being harmed right now. It is time for adults who have been harmed to stand up and protect them. The voices and gathering of survivors of sibling abuse will make a new world.