1abvASibling Abuse has long lasting impact to adulthood.

If this happened to you, you are not alone.

You might be asking:
  • Can I be free of my past and move on?
  • Will I ever have a normal life?
  • Will this anxiety ever go away?
  • Why do I keep attracting the wrong people?

In America alone, it is estimated that there are over 40 million adult sibling abuse survivors.

According to recent research, sibling abuse dramatically affects the adult with:When people say...
  • Chronic anxiety,depression, PTSD
  • Difficulties with work,
  • Addictions,
  • Dysfunctional relationships, domestic violence,
  • Financial issues
  • Low self esteem
  • Estrangement from Family/Isolation
  • Suicidal Ideation
On a world level, therapists often misdiagnose sibling abuse survivors and rarely address this ignored type of abuse in counseling sessions.   Adult sibling abuse survivors rarely share their story and when they do disclose, are disputed by their abuser/and or family. Many spend time and money on trial-and-error hopeful solutions that do not create a shift in quality of life.  

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I am a survivor of sibling abuse, a national author, a conference presenter, and have coached several adult sibling abuse survivors, both in my practice here in Sacramento, California, but also online. I believe that sibling abuse survivors can have thriving, meaningful lives. I take great pride in being a part of the healing and recovery process for survivors of sibling abuse. Through my own journey of recovery from sibling abuse, I have first hand insight and education about recovery from sibling abuse. I understand how family, parenting, and intimate relationships are affected by sibling abuse that originated in childhood. Based on my educational Master’s from the University of Oregon, study of Neuroscience, being an a National author/trainer on Sibling Abuse and PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), and also my background of working with sibling abuse survivors for over 12 years, my beneficial program is designed for positive recovery and empowerment.
Authored the following books:
  • Every Eighteen Second (1993)
  • The Sourcebook For Working With Battered Women (1993)
  • The Girl In The Water: A true story of Sibling Abuse (2013)
  • Sibling Abuse Survivor: True Story of the Impact to Adulthood. (2015)
  • Sibling Abuse: True Impact to Childhood and Adulthood (2021)
  • Colorado Organization for Victims
  • Alabama School of Alcohol & Drug Studies-Continuing Education
  • West Coast Symposium on Addictive Disorders
  • Northwestern Region, Soroptimist International
  • Oregon American Federation of State and County Employees
  • Drug & Alcohol Department-Continuing
  • Education/South Carolina
  • The Oregon Association of Young Children
  • Georgia Domestic Violence Coalition
  • Kansas State University-Governor's Conference
  • Lane County Labor Council, AFL-CIO
  • NASW-Alaska/ Continuing Education
  • NASW-Arkansas
  • California Nurses Association
  • Wyoming Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Assault
  • Federation of Business and Professional Women’s Clubs
On The Air
Endorsements for Girl In The Water
"For too long, sibling abuse has been a serious problem that has been overlooked and excused as sibling rivalry. I commend Nancy Kilgore's personal story which will help other survivors to uncover their harmful experiences and seek help." Vernon R. Wiehe, PhD, Professor, the College of Social Work, University of Kentucky and author of Working with Child Abuse and Neglect
"This book is a call to action about the effects of sibling abuse and its link to family dysfunction. It's also a book about hope and encouragement, and a message for sibling abuse survivors that they are not alone." Jane Balvanz, coauthor, When Girls Hurt Girls® and co-owner, A Way Through and The Global Alliance for Preventing Relational Aggression
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